FFS
Member
As usual, in front of my laptop when I'm here
Posts: 2,797
|
Post by FFS on Jul 18, 2021 10:37:18 GMT 1
Have seen several posts referring to things which might be difficult for the elderly - at what age or time of life do we become 'elderly'? Is there a progression from young to adult, from adult to middle-aged, from middle-aged to elderly, elderly to not-worth-keeping?
|
|
Aardvark
Non-gamer
Living in soggy 22 and still wondering what's going on.
Posts: 2,172
|
Post by Aardvark on Jul 18, 2021 10:43:36 GMT 1
When you get up and go to another room and then wonder what it was you came for.
Or when you drop something and get down to pick it up you stop to think if there's anything else you can do while your're down there.
|
|
dilly
Member
near Limoges, Haute Vienne
Posts: 105
|
Post by dilly on Jul 18, 2021 11:17:29 GMT 1
...Is there a progression from young to adult, from adult to middle-aged, from middle-aged to elderly, elderly to not-worth-keeping? For me it's not so much a progression. I don't feel as if I'm gradually aging every day. It's more a "step-like" process. Long stretches of nothing, then a realisation that you can't or don't really want to do stuff, e.g. sitting cross-legged on the floor - not comfortable any more - and (usually) there's no going back. I suppose the answer (for physical aging) is to keep as active as you can for as long as you can.
It came home to me that I'd crossed the dividing line from middle-aged when a young man stood up and gave me his seat in a crowded RER a couple of years ago. I was quite shocked and nearly said: But I'm not that old!
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2021 11:36:34 GMT 1
|
|
Veem
Member
Posts: 12,016
|
Post by Veem on Jul 18, 2021 11:36:36 GMT 1
I'll let you know when I get there.
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2021 11:42:28 GMT 1
When you look on the mirror and wonder who that old git is looking back at you.
|
|
|
|
Post by traveller on Jul 18, 2021 11:48:13 GMT 1
Funny this topic coming up because only yesterday I felt old. My daughter offered to carry my relaxer chair down some steps into the garden I refused her help, but the thought did come to me, am I old now? Because my parents and MIL lived well into their 90’s and one going over the hundred, I think of that as old. Lots of things like ill health and poor living conditions can make some people appear and act older than they are, but inside I think you’re always young.
|
|
|
|
Post by gigi on Jul 18, 2021 11:50:11 GMT 1
Someone elderly has always been someone much older than me - when I was young it was someone aged about 50. By the time I reached around 40, elderly was someone aged 60+. Now that I’m past 70 I think of my brother and my husband’s relatives, all 85+, as elderly, so it’s getting nearer to my own age.
There’s a lot I can no longer do and many things that are a big effort to do, but being elderly is still some way ahead of me. I’ll keep you posted.
You’ve reminded of the old duet with Maurice Chevalier, Hermione Gingold by Lerner & Loewe,
I Remember It Well
We met at nine
We met at eight
I was on time
No, you were late
Ah yes, I remember it well.
We dined with friends
We dined alone.
A tenor sang
A baritone.
I remember it well.
That dazzling April moon!
There was none that night.
And the month was June
That's right, that's right.
It warms my heart
To know that you
Remember still
The way you do
Ah yes, I remember it well.
How often I've thought of that Friday--
Monday--
Night, when we had our last rendezvous
And somehow I foolishly wondered if you might
By some chance be thinkin' of it too
That carriage ride
You walked me home
You lost a glove
I lost a comb
Ah yes, I remember it well.
That brilliant sky!
We had some rain
Those Russian songs
From sunny Spain
Ah yes, I remember it well.
You wore a gown of gold
I was all in blue
Am I getting old?
Oh no, not you! -
How strong you were
How young and gay
A prince of love
In every way
Ah yes, I remember it well.
|
|
|
|
Post by sidandus on Jul 18, 2021 14:38:46 GMT 1
I’m now 63 and would class myself as middle aged, definitely not elderly. In my head I’m 33, and I have running races and discos with my 4 year old granddaughter with no problem so consider myself relatively fit. My GP receptionist double checked my date of birth because she thought I was 10 years younger than my date of birth stated. But..........my granddaughter thinks I’m ancient - aged 2 she’d point and say “grandma” every time the old crone in Tangled (Disney film) appeared!! I’ve been married for 42 years but I remember from when I was young that only old people had been married that long so how can that be (I was a child bride!). Prior to covid I was walking through M&S and caught sight of a miserable old woman - then realised it was my reflection in the mirror! If I think my daughters’ are expecting too much of me and remind them I’m 32+ years younger than them they laugh - to them I’m still young. Chatting to my friend they all experience similar. I don’t think I’ll ever feel elderly, as Gigi said that goalpost will keep moving as I age but medically my daughter was an elderly mother when she had her first child aged 35. Perhaps elderly means different things to different people depending on health, fitness, happiness levels etc and there is no definite age for when one reaches it. But I do think people age better now than they did in my grandparents and parents day.
|
|
acr
Member
In Manche(50).
Posts: 152
|
Post by acr on Jul 18, 2021 14:48:44 GMT 1
I think it's when your face drops to the extent that you have to force yourself to keep smiling to stop your mouth turning significantly downwards....
One of the things that shook me a little bit recently was sorting out old family photos and finding some really nice ones of my grandparents. They looked (and still look) old except that when you look more closely you realise from their skin that they weren't at the time - in fact they were significantly younger than I am now. I do hope I look better than that. |
|
|
|
Post by bubbles1 on Jul 18, 2021 18:32:05 GMT 1
when you are in your coffin
|
|
JohnnyD
Member
Mayenne (53) When Covid allows..........Which isn't very often these days........
Posts: 2,014
|
Post by JohnnyD on Jul 18, 2021 18:36:49 GMT 1
Have seen several posts referring to things which might be difficult for the elderly - at what age or time of life do we become 'elderly'? Is there a progression from young to adult, from adult to middle-aged, from middle-aged to elderly, elderly to not-worth-keeping? I become elderly at about 1800 in the evening until I go to bed, then from about when I wake up until about 1000………. rest of the day is fine  |
|
|
|
Post by elsie on Jul 18, 2021 19:15:48 GMT 1
Jim Callaghan said "When you are over 70, do not try to put on your socks whilst standing up"
|
|
Deleted
Deleted Member
Posts: 0
|
Post by Deleted on Jul 18, 2021 20:12:24 GMT 1
You are elderly when you reach 5 years after the age you are now. Think about it!
|
|
Nifty
Member
Posts: 5,040
|
Post by Nifty on Jul 19, 2021 2:55:30 GMT 1
Funny this topic coming up because only yesterday I felt old. And I thought I had a perverted soh. so much makes sense these days that didn’t until recently. this for instance or people having tag lines about the ultimate pleasure, or whatever, being the absence of pain. or as Aardvark wrote ‘ when you drop something and get down to pick it up you stop to think if there's anything else you can do while your're down there.’ or regaining the standing position or getting out of bed requires a degree of strategic planning. |
|
