My wife says I am a constant pain but still here.

Would have to be in a dire position to consider this but wouldn’t write it of.

I hope I don't have to travel to Switzerland to log off.

I've thought about this over the last three years or so, having lost 8 friends and acquaintances to pancreatic cancer. No chance of a cure, between 18 months and, at best, five years of chemo (sometimes surgery too). You can't know until you're in that situation and the instinct for survival at any price kicks in, but I don't think I'd bother trying to prolong the agony. I've read of a few cases of medical professionals being diagnosed and opting for no treatment....just enjoy themselves as hard as possible for a shorter time. Sounds good to me
Pity the favoured option is Switzerland, though. I'd prefer somewhere warm with a beach and killers with a sense of humour.

My husband died a horrible death, cancer of the oesophagus which spread to his lungs. He was unable to swallow anything but thin liquid for 12 months and not even that in the last 2 weeks. He couldn't even gasp for breath at the end. The end of life care given in the hospital was cruel and uncaring. I wanted him to die sooner to spare his suffering. But it never crossed his mind. He wanted to live. That's what worries me. As he was unable to speak I could have taken a decision which was contrary to his desire if a law existed which allowed me to do so. But I knew him. He wanted to live to the very last moment, and who was I to deny him that.

Having, in the last two weeks lost my future daughter in law at 33 and my mother at 89, I have a divided view. My future dil was diagnosed with bowel cancer at the end of October, symptoms only occurring 2 weeks prior to diagnosis. She was due to marry my son in May and had her whole life ahead of her and desperately wanted to beat this horrendous disease. She never got the chance and passed away suddenly within 6 weeks. My mother on the other hand was not enjoying life. To see her in pain towards the end was more than difficult and we were asking for more pain killers to make her comfortable, but they were of course strictly monitored. Luckily, at the very end, she was calm and had the best care. I would have done anything to prolong the life of my f. dil and anything to stop the suffering of my mother.

Thank you Houpla.

The thread started by ajm is along the same lines as this one but degenerated into a discussion about drinking tea (or not).
When the end of life beckons it can be long and drawn out, sometimes painful, or quick. When the end is near some have the chance of a hospice to make things as 'smooth' as possible. The costs of hospices in the UK are not 100% taxpayer funded and need extensive support from the 'people' to do their wonderful work.
Having seen the fairly quick ending of my mother to bowel cancer (in an hospice) and the long drawn out death of my FIL altho of no specific ailment other than having lost a will to live I fully support ending a life before nature takes it. My MIL has been in a care home for 7 years being a drain on family wealth and the wellbeing of my wife. When will it end? My father lived to 104 and spent the last 4 years in a care home but fortunately it did not drain his fortune too much. He received excellent end of life care and my brother and SIL were tremendous throughout.

In my mind we should be able to decide when we want to go (and how?). I would hate to be like my MIL living in a care home with only visits from my wife.