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Post by limousinlady on Dec 22, 2023 12:34:44 GMT 1
LL - that must have been incredibly hard for you and everyone else close to you. Your poor son lost his future wife and his grandmother in quick succession. Sometimes life can seem so cruel. Thinking of you all and wishing you well. Thank you Veem.
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Post by houpla on Dec 22, 2023 12:37:39 GMT 1
Hence the usefulness of Living Wills, Lasting Power of Attorney and Curatelle. The snag with those is that what a person may think they want at the point in their life when they make them (i.e. when they're fully compos mentis, which is obligatory) could change when they're actually faced with the situation for real. It's a tricky one! It would be good to have the choice, though.
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Post by mysty on Dec 22, 2023 14:44:30 GMT 1
Some very sad stories in this thread; its not nice for anyone to go through but it comes to all of us in the end, some a lot earlier than others.
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Post by sw31girl on Dec 22, 2023 18:19:46 GMT 1
My mum was ok at 99, fiercely independent and still going out and getting her shopping, until she had a stroke and now lives in a care home as the stroke has robbed her of her mental and mobility capacities. I know full well that she did not want her life to end up like this. The care home staff are very good with her but she has no quality of life. In her initial rare moments of lucidity she has made it clear she would want to die. I can only say to her that you have to roll with the dice. There’s nothing else I can do to help other than make sure the home knows that I’m keeping an eye on her care. It’s heartbreaking to see such an independent woman being reduced to living such a life with so little dignity. I’m glad that she no longer realises what’s happened to her, especially the vascular dementia.
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Post by iolar on Dec 23, 2023 17:34:42 GMT 1
I think mangetout and norfolk have summed it up very well. It isn't the State or priests or judges (we are in control) that should decide when our lives end. Nor should it only be question of pain. It is not for me to question or deny why another person wants to end their life it is for that person and they only to decide.
If some are 'content' to suffer pain and prolong their life/existence so be it but it isn't only about pain, it's about quality of life. My wife hasn't had any quality of life for over 2 years. She relies totally on me and I know even though she says nothing that she 'really doesn't like it'She feels a burden but it isn't for me because I love her and because I took an oath - in sickness and in health. If your word is worth nothing, then you are worth nothing.
When wleft Spain in 2009 we brought with us two dogs. One was abandoned as they often are in Spain, dumped on a slip road off a motorway - the Catholic 'sanctity of life'. The other dog followed Fox and me home, covered in ticks and I shut the apartment door on her and she cried - we had just had 3 beautiful abandoned dogs stolen from us (quite common in Spain). I spent the next 3 days looking for her and just when I had given up, I found her.
So they came to France with us. They both lived until they were almost 15 years old. I told the vet that if he didn't let me administer the lethal injection then I knew a hunter who would lend me his gun, because it was my decision to end their lives and their suffering. They were my friends, my duty and my love to end their suffering and I did. It was I think the hardest things I have ever done but I had to do it, it would have been cowardice and betrayal not to.
I will not let my wife suffer that I know. No one has consulted me on these laws nor anyone I know, I only have contempt for the elites of this world, I am not a frightened peasant, my wife comes before their power trip. It's not important how long you live but how you live - esta la vida.
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Post by jardiniere on Dec 24, 2023 14:56:24 GMT 1
There was an article at the weekend about someone with lung cancer who said if there was no improvement or omething like that she would have been prepared to travel to Switzerland to end it all. I think that is her right but no-one should have the stress of having to travel abroad to spend their last moments in an unfamiliar environment with unfamiliar faces.
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